Expecting Baby Number 2? Here are some tips from a Denver Newborn Photographer (and mom of twins).
I want to preface this blog by saying that I have twins, so my babies have had a sibling since conception. They didn’t have to adjust to not being an only child because they never were one. However, I have friends and family who have navigated the tricky waters of going from one to two children. Here’s what I’ve learned from them, as well as a few things I’ve learned with my own twins in terms of ensuring both children have their individual needs met and feel like an important part of the family.
Uncharted Waters
Let’s be honest, introducing the newest member of the family to your older child can sometimes feel like navigating uncharted waters. That’s because you are!!
As a mom myself, I’m here to assure you that this journey, while occasionally bumpy, can also be an amazing bonding experience for your family! Obviously, it’s so crucial to prepare your older kiddos for the new baby. This is a big change in their life and will shake up their world quite a bit.
But here’s the good news, preparation is key (and you’re already starting that process by reading this blog!)
Let’s talk specifics. What can you do NOW to prepare for the new baby? Keep Reading.
Books
You can start by reading books that talk about siblings and new babies. “I’m a Big Sister” or “I’m a Big Brother” by Joanna Cole and “The New Small Circles – Unusual relationships for unique people” by Tess Castleman are great options.
They beautifully illustrate the ups and downs of having a new sibling.
Let the Older Sibling Help Prepare
As you prepare the baby’s room, let your older child be involved! Allow them to pick out some nursery decorations, or a special gift for their new sibling. This involvement can help them feel like they’re a crucial part of this new chapter.
Keep Communication Open
Leading up to the birth, and in the weeks following, it’s important to maintain open lines of communication. Ask your child how they’re feeling, let them express any worries or fears, and affirm their feelings. Let them know their feelings matter, and that their feelings make sense given their situation.
Let the Older Sibling Help After Baby Arrives
After the baby arrives, it’s a whole new ball game. During this time, it’s helpful to foster interaction between your older child and their new sibling. Let your older child “help” with the baby — maybe they can pick out the baby’s outfit for the day, or sing them a lullaby, or simply talk to the baby. This can help them form a bond with the baby, and feel included in this new phase of your family’s life.
Pre-arrange one on one time
I personally can tell you this is HUGE when navigating life with two kids. It has the biggest impact on my twins behavior and mood.
Remember, amid all this, feelings of jealousy might creep in. It’s essential to reassure your older child that they’re still loved just as much as before. Arrange for some one-on-one time with them – a special movie night or a picnic in the park. It doesn’t have to be grand, what matters is spending quality time with them.
I would recommend even choosing one day per week or month, such as every Friday evening or the first Sunday of the month, and make it a special day, just for them. Decide on this BEFORE the baby is born, and mark it in your calendar. You and your partner can take turns taking them out for a fun activity. This will also give each of you a much needed break from baby duty.
Keep Their Routine
Ultimately, keep in mind that as parents, you’re their compass in this new territory. It’s important to keep as much of their normal routine as possible.
Whether it’s their beloved bedtime story, or that funny face you pull while having dinner, keeping some things the same can provide them with comfort. And remember, every child is different and will react differently. It’s about guiding them through this process with love, understanding, and patience.
I hope this helped offer some ideas on how to make this transition a little more smoothly! If you’re looking for a photographer to capture these first moments with the older sibling and new baby – I’m here for you!
I hope reading “6 Tips for Smoothly Navigating the Arrival of Baby Number Two” has given you some solid ideas! If you’re still looking for a Northern Colorado Newborn Photographer, click here to see my portfolio of newborn images.
