It take's a village...
So, you've welcomed a beautiful new baby into your life, and suddenly, your world has been turned upside down. Amid the sleepless nights, diaper changes, and endless cuddles, finding time to nurture friendships can feel like an impossible task. Trust me, I've been there! But, I'm here to tell you that connecting with other new moms is not only possible but also essential for your well-being. In this post, I'll share some tried and tested tips to help you find quality mom friendships even when you're busy juggling your new parenting responsibilities.
Before we get into the practical ways to find new mom friends, rest assured that completely natural to feel a little awkward when you intentionally seek new mom friends. It might not seem like it, but countless moms are in the same boat, searching for connections and support as they navigate their new roles. So, embrace the process and know that reaching out to other moms is a positive and empowering step in your parenting journey.
LOCAL MOM GROUPS
The easiest way to find new mom friends is through local mom groups! These groups are a fantastic way to meet new mom friends—even if you're an introvert!
Now, where can you find these groups? My first tip would be to search in Facebook. Type in your town or city or neighborhood plus "moms" and I can guarantee you multiple options will pop up! You can also use social media like Facebook, Instagram, TikTok to find moms with similar interests. For example, for example, mom's who are passionate about being eco-friendly, moms that love to hike, the possibilities are endless. Don't be afraid to jump in their DMs if you feel like you have a lot in common.
Also, don't forget apps! Peanut is one app that pairs women with other women to begin friendships! Many moms are on Peanut.
If you’re thinking about exploring these options but you’re worried about stepping out of your comfort zone.. no problem! Just remember, you're not alone—many new moms feel the same way. When you enter these apps or groups you are sure to see other moms in the same boat, just looking for their bestie.
MEET OTHER MOMS AT CHILD FRIENDLY LOCATIONS
For this one, think about checking out the playground or storytime at the library. But let’s be honest - approaching other moms without feeling weird can be a bit of a challenge! I want to give you a few tips that can help you can strike up a conversation that feels natural and enjoyable.
First, keep it casual and friendly. Start with a compliment or a light-hearted comment about something you both can relate to, like your kids' activities or the chaos of motherhood.
For example, you might say, "Your little one is really enjoying the swings! How old are they?" This opens up the conversation without putting too much pressure on the other person. Make sure to listen actively and ask open-ended questions that encourage them to share more about their experiences.
If you find common ground, don't be afraid to suggest exchanging contact information or planning a future playdate. You can say something like, "It's been so great chatting with you! Would you like to exchange numbers and maybe get our kids together for a playdate sometime?" Or, “Do you guys usually come here around this day/time? I know our kiddos had so much fun playing together!”
Remember, many moms are also looking for new friends, so don't be too hard on yourself if you feel a little nervous. Just be yourself, show genuine interest, and let the conversation flow naturally.
Did I miss any of your favorite resources or groups? Let me know in the comments!